The mother / daughter relationship has to be one of the most complex relationships there is. My mom and I were always close when I was young. She was my best friend. Then Mom came to live with me after my father died in 1997. This means that Mom has now been living with me for 16 years as of this writing.
We had a massive fight this morning which has made me very sad. She expects so much of me and I do what I'm able. But often it's a never ending stream of demands. At what point do I get to live my life? Mom's going to be 88 in November so I realize that she needs a great deal of assistance. I shouldn't even get mad at her. But I'm so very tired of trying to please someone who will never be pleased. She sucks the life right out of me. I think perhaps she would be better off living in a facility with other people around her. Unfortunately, our finances don't allow for much. And at times, she's made me promise not to put her in a nursing home. I then think about having someone come to our home. Mom won't go for that as she doesn't want anyone to come into our house as "dirty" as it looks with all my crafting supplies around. Which all means that we continue this dance of loving and hurting each other until something drastic happens. This seems to be the curse of the baby-boomer generation.
Thanks for letting me vent.